Avoidant

Highly likely to have grown up in an environment where emotional needs were ignored or parents were cold. Accumulating painful experiences of 'my emotions won't be accepted anyway,' they shut down their feelings and built a strong self-defense system to avoid getting hurt by not expecting anything from others.

When intimacy develops beyond a certain level, they suddenly feel 'suffocated' and unconsciously try to distance themselves. To do this, they emphasize their partner's minor flaws or complain about losing independence and freedom. They strongly tend to avoid emotional conversations and try to resolve situations with logic or reason.

When the partner demands excessive emotional expression or tries to control their private life. Especially when they try to constantly confirm affection, asking 'Why do you love me?' or invade their personal time without giving them space.

Must acknowledge that their avoidance is a defense mechanism triggered by 'fear of getting hurt,' not because they dislike the partner. When wanting to run away, instead of blocking them completely, practice explaining: 'I feel overwhelmed right now and need some time alone. Let's talk again tomorrow.'

If you pull an avoidant partner by force when they step back, they will flee completely. Allow them time to go into their cave, and have the 'coolness' to wait until they feel safe enough to come out on their own.